It’s a question I get a lot.
We’ve been in Hattiesburg for a year now (wow, time flies!) and we are constantly meeting new people. The conversation usually begins with “what brought you to Hattiesburg?” which leads to talk about Geoff’s job and what he does at the university. And I know the question is coming so I’m usually already thinking about how I’m going to answer it this time.
I love being a homemaker. Honestly, it’s what I’ve always wanted to do. I enjoy the art of domesticity. I have never ever had I job that I loved. I didn’t live to work. I worked to live. But at the same time I am proud of my accomplishments, both educationally and professionally.
So when someone asks me what I do I am often perplexed as to what to say. Of course I say I’m a homemaker but sometimes I feel like I need to follow it up with a “but…” like “but I have my master’s degree in library science” or “but I used to be a medical librarian” or “but I used to work in academia, too.”
Usually when a woman my age (33) leaves her career it’s because she is starting a family. But that wasn’t the case for me. So sometimes I feel like I need to justify my decision or make it clear that I’m not lazy and I certainly don’t sit around all day eating bonbons (though I do admit that would be nice!). And yes, someday we would love to start a family, but for now I am happy practicing keeping house (I say practicing because by no means do I feel I’m an expert yet!).
Of course, being a homemaker does have its perks. Namely, more free time. And because of that I’m knitting a lot more than I used to. And now I have the time to learn new things like crochet (woo hoo!) and quilting. And my plan is to one day make a little money doing these things that I love. Making my own schedule. Being my own boss.
So perhaps all of this uncertainty about how I present myself to others is because I feel like maybe I’m in some sort of limbo. Caught somewhere between career woman and artisan; between corner office and studio.
Whatever the case may be, I still don’t know how to answer that goddamned question.